In the last couple of years, I've seen a sharp increase in the number of strap-on harnesses I sell. Some of this could be attributed to the fact that Sex Siopa is growing and more people are discovering us everyday, but there just seems to be something about strap-on sex toys that has piqued the curiosity of the Irish public. Even more interestingly I've found that in the past 6 months, I've sold more dildo harnesses to men (presumably to be penetrated by a female partner) than I have to women. 

So why are men suddenly enjoying strap-on sex all of a sudden? Well we need to take a few things into account. 

• Not all men have penises. A certain percentage of these sales could be coming from non-binary folk from across the country. 
• Ireland as a whole is becoming more open about discussing and exploring different kinds of sexual pleasure.
• Media representation like Broad City and Deadpool have made it more acceptable and even cool to add new things to your bedroom repertoire.

So if you yourself are new to the ways of the strap-on and not sure which toy would suit you, allow me to assist. I've put together a list my favourite dildos that you can use alone or in a strap-on harness. 

Tantus Silk Small / Medium

The Tantus Silk dildos are by far the most newbie friendly. The small is about the size of a finger and comes with an extra wide base. It's great for going slow and testing the waters without being intimidating. It's only drawback is that because it's so thin, it might wander in the harness a bit if you don't have a small o-ring to fit it through. The Medium size is the next step up and is about double the diameter of the small, and a little bit longer.

Fun Factory Amor

I love the Fun Factory Amor dildo, because it's one you can use to explore on your own before using with a partner. The wide, flexible base acts as a suction cup so you can try it out in a warm shower or bath. The shape of the base also makes it super comfy for the harness wearer. While the girth is fairly average size, the length is a bit shorter, so it's excellent for beginners.

Fun Factory Magnum

However if you love the base of the Amor and you prefer your dildos a little longer, you should go for the Fun Factory Magnum. It's a similar, semi-realistic shape to the Amor, but with an elongated size. 

BS Atelier Alex

BS Atelier make beautiful, hand-poured silicone sex toys, and their Alex dildo is no exception. It's an average size with a stylised realistic shape. The pronounced head means it hits just the right spot for both prostate and g-spot stimulation. And if you need a bit of inspiration for using it, the Alex is featured in Erika Lust's first Xconfessions dvd. 

Tantus Ripple

If you love the feeling of anal beads, but wish you could get that sensation from harness play, check out the Tantus Ripple. It comes in 2 sizes - Small and Large. The graduated beads are flexible but firm, and it has a wide base, so it works well in a harness. The lovely thing about this toy is that it encourages you to go slow and work your way up to the bigger beads. 

If you have any questions about these toys or any others that you're curious about, please feel free to give me a shout at hello@sexsiopa.ie.