Anal play can be intensely pleasurable for a lot of people. There are heaps of nerve endings in the anus, so it’s no surprise that many of us like to incorporate that in our sex lives, either on our own or with a partner(s). If you’re new to it though, anal play can feel a little intimidating. You mightn’t know where to start or what kinds of sex toys to use. The anus and rectum are very sensitive and if you don’t take the proper precautions or try to do too much, too fast, you can hurt yourself. That’s why I’ve put together this short anal guide for beginners.
Firstly before you go putting ANYTHING in your bum, you’ll need to get yourself a good lubricant that is made with anal play in mind. Our butts don’t self lubricate the way vaginas and mouths do, so it’s important to use it liberally. I recommend either Sliquid Sassy, a long lasting water based lubricant that can be used with all toys and condoms, or Sliquid Silk, a super slippery silicone hybrid lube that can be used with condoms and any non-silicone toys. Make sure never to use silicone lube with silicone toys as the silicone oil my degrade the silicone toy.
Once you have your lube situation sorted out, start slow. Really slow. The last thing you want to do is scare yourself off butt sex, because you pushed yourself too far and too fast at the start. I always tell people to start off on your own with no toys. Use a bit of lubricant and your index finger to explore the area and figure out what feels good to you. When you’re ready to move on, make sure to get a bodysafe toy with a base that is wide enough that the whole thing won’t slip inside you. The general rule is that the base should be the widest point on any anal toy. Here are 4 fabulous toys that I love for beginners.
This is by far my most popular and beloved butt toy. It’s small and friendly-looking, and the way it’s designed with the bulbous end at the top means that it’s much more comfortable putting in and taking out. It should also stay in place better. It’s made from a lovely, flexible silicone and has a very clever base that sits neatly between your butt cheeks. You can get the small Bootie on it’s own or if you want to work your way up to more intermediate toys or anal intercourse, you can also get the Bootie set which comes with 3 different sizes.
If you think you’d like something just a tad bigger with a firmer silicone - sometimes a firmer silicone can be better for prostate stimulation - you might prefer the Tente plug by Spanish silicone studio, BS Atelier. The shape is slightly different from the Bootie, with the bulbous end tilted the opposite way, and the base is much thicker.
This is the slimmest of all the plugs that I sell. If you’re in anyway intimidated by wide plugs or want to use something similar in size to a finger, I highly recommend the Perfect Plug. It has a slim, but flared base like the Bootie, and like all our plugs is made from 100% bodysafe silicone. The Perfect Plug is beloved by lots of trusted sex bloggers too. When you’re ready to upgrade, there’s the vibrating Tantus Perfect Plug Plus.
The last plug I want to share is a rather unexpected one for most people. The Njoy Pure Plug is made from beautiful, polished medical grade stainless steel. The hard material sometimes scares people off, but it’s a fantastic beginners toy, so hear me out. Because it’s got a satin finish, Njoy plugs are easier than most to ease into the body, and you need less lubricant with them. It has a looped base so you have much more control over it, and it’s weightiness means you’ll feel nicely filled, but not uncomfortable. I currently stock the small and medium sizes.
If you have any questions about any of these or any other toys on the site, please feel free to get in touch. I’m happy to make firstname.lastname@example.org