'Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life' by Emily Nagoski engagingly explains the latest research about female sexuality.
Since Viagra was invented, researchers around the world have spent a lot of of time trying to create a female version. While they haven't been entirely successful at creating a pill, scientists have developed a much better understanding of women's sexuality, and their triggers for sexual response.
Come As You Are looks at the huge variance in female sexuality, and answers the most common question women had asked the author, a sex educator: am I normal? The answer: Women vary in their anatomy and sexual response mechanisms, and that is normal. Some women don't need clitoral stimulation to come; most women do. Some women get naturally lubricated when they are turned on; some women don't.
Come As You Are also looks at the factors influencing a woman's sexual well-being, and how to influence them. The most important factor is not what you do in bed, but how you feel about it. The book goes into great detail about the concept of responsive desire, and how stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it.
Come As You Are is a great guide to creating the right context for a fulfilling sex life, and the importance of understanding and communication between partners in doing this.